attending a funeral

Do You Always Say Yes to A Funeral Invite?

When you’re invited to a funeral, is it bad form to immediately suggest that you will be hundreds of miles away on the day to avoid going? Conversely, should you say ‘yes’ to every funeral you are invited to? The answer may depend upon whether you are going to the funeral because you knew the individual or are attending because you want to show support to those left behind. Some people believe you should attend every funeral you are asked to and if this means missing work for a couple of hours or an entire day, then so be it. Is Your Decision Based Upon Age? Are you too young to be attending funerals of elderly relations? Some parents believe that children of all ages should attend a funeral as a mark of respect. Others believe young children and perhaps early teenagers should avoid funerals for as long as possible. Attendance may leave a lasting impression when they are too young to cope with the outpouring of grief and emotion. Others will suggest a funeral is a good life training and education skill. Not all funerals involve someone of your own age or much older. On occasions, it may be a younger person who has died. These are often the most difficult funerals to attend. Do You Need to Consider Your Responsibilities? Is this all about you and how you feel about funerals, as you may not wish to attend, but moral responsibilities remind you that you should? For some individuals, a funeral will be inconvenient to where you needed to be on the day and the appointments you should maybe consider cancelling. For the deceased, they almost certainly couldn’t time their death according to your calendar. Will you even be noticed if you do not attend the funeral, particularly when you were not particularly close to the individual being buried or cremated? Does this help sway your decision about whether to attend or not or are you more worried that you may be seen to miss the funeral and be talked about for years to come? There is, perhaps, no right or wrong answer to the questions posed. Perhaps the final decision may come down to how you feel about the person who has died. You will have to live with your decision, either to attend the funeral, or avoid it. You cannot undo not going to a...

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How Much Time Off Work When Someone Dies?

Most businesses will give you some time off work if you’re going to a close family member’s funeral, but many will refuse your application to attend a funeral, if the person who died, isn’t that close to you. What if the death is your partner? Companies should understand that everyone is an individual and that the amount of time of off work required varies considerably. Surely it’s better to have an employee return to work when they are mentally and emotional able to function well? Will the business suffer if the employee has to return to work too quickly? You can look at what’s best for you and what’s best for the person who has died before deciding when you should return to work. What needs doing at home that is more important than at work? Who are you going to be the most use to; your family or your workplace? You may need to learn improved negotiating skills with your boss at a time of worry, stress and while you are grieving. You might need to let your boss know all about your pre-paid funeral plan and how you’ve saved them time by organising the day in...

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