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Do You Always Say Yes to A Funeral Invite?

When you’re invited to a funeral, is it bad form to immediately suggest that you will be hundreds of miles away on the day to avoid going? Conversely, should you say ‘yes’ to every funeral you are invited to? The answer may depend upon whether you are going to the funeral because you knew the individual or are attending because you want to show support to those left behind. Some people believe you should attend every funeral you are asked to and if this means missing work for a couple of hours or an entire day, then so be it. Is Your Decision Based Upon Age? Are you too young to be attending funerals of elderly relations? Some parents believe that children of all ages should attend a funeral as a mark of respect. Others believe young children and perhaps early teenagers should avoid funerals for as long as possible. Attendance may leave a lasting impression when they are too young to cope with the outpouring of grief and emotion. Others will suggest a funeral is a good life training and education skill. Not all funerals involve someone of your own age or much older. On occasions, it may be a younger person who has died. These are often the most difficult funerals to attend. Do You Need to Consider Your Responsibilities? Is this all about you and how you feel about funerals, as you may not wish to attend, but moral responsibilities remind you that you should? For some individuals, a funeral will be inconvenient to where you needed to be on the day and the appointments you should maybe consider cancelling. For the deceased, they almost certainly couldn’t time their death according to your calendar. Will you even be noticed if you do not attend the funeral, particularly when you were not particularly close to the individual being buried or cremated? Does this help sway your decision about whether to attend or not or are you more worried that you may be seen to miss the funeral and be talked about for years to come? There is, perhaps, no right or wrong answer to the questions posed. Perhaps the final decision may come down to how you feel about the person who has died. You will have to live with your decision, either to attend the funeral, or avoid it. You cannot undo not going to a...

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Is Embalming a Green Issue?

There are many people that suggest that embalming a person is ecologically unsound. On the opposite side of the argument, there is no particular evidence that suggest that embalming is unkind to the environment. What is embalming? When a person dies, the body begins to decompose. To help it remain looking in good condition, an embalmer will replace the blood with an embalming fluid, which is a mixture of chemicals and water. The last part of an embalmer’s role is to empty the stomach and finally wash the person’s hair and apply make up where necessary, so that they look good for any visitors. Green activists will tell you that the embalming fluid will either be sent into the air via a cremation or eventually find its way into the ground via a burial. This could lead to the chemicals ending up in underground rivers. The more dangerous chemicals are said to evaporate and, therefore, won’t cause any harm, but alternative chemicals are available for a less dangerous option. As part of your pre-planned funeral you can discuss whether you require embalming or not. It will almost certainly be included within your pre-paid funeral costs, whether you choose to use the option, or not.   Related articles I Embalmed My...

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