Who Cares for the Carer?

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Who Cares for the Carer?
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Caring for a loved one or a close friend is vitally important for a loved one or a close friend, but what happens when you need help or care for yourself, either for just a few days or for a much longer period?

The helpful people over at alzheimers.org explain the potential sets of circumstances very clearly, providing tips to help everyone through those demanding times.

Where the carer receives no respite from providing care, day in day out, 24/7, there is an obvious health implication for the person providing the care.

Care is provided for and by people of all ages with a wide range of different disabilities. Respite care is provided over a short-term period to provide a temporary alternative to the standard arrangements in place. Where you have been successfully caring for someone with dementia, there is a need for a break from the care activities so that your batteries can be recharged.

Dementia - The causes of dementia

Dementia – The causes of dementia (Photo credit: The Prime Minister’s Office)


It is perfectly normal for a carer to feel guilty if they have to leave the person they are caring for, alone for any period of time, but you are not helping the individual that requires the care when your tasks make you ill.

For the patient’s benefit, they will probably prefer to stay in familiar surroundings, rather than moving somewhere else, temporarily. The individual may not be able to understand, completely, why they are moving elsewhere, and whether they will return in a short period of time. This confusion can add to the anxiety of both carer and patient.

The website offers a number of tips to help individuals avoid distress, such as;

  • Avoid discussing arrangements too far ahead of the planned date.
  • When the time comes, talk about the break in the context of a ‘little holiday’ and be positive in your explanation.
  • Reassure the person with dementia that they will be well cared for and that they will be coming home again.
  • Remember that any insecurity or uncertainty you show may cause the person with dementia to feel afraid, so stay calm and give information in a clear and simple manner. Stress is infectious, but so is calm.
  • Remember that it is not selfish to want or need a rest.

There are many sections, on the website, discussing the different ways that care can be provided and how, principally for patients with dementia. In particular, they explain how care at home can be organized; a checklist for setting up your respite home care and a careful checklist of instructions that the temporary carer must understand and adhere to.

The importance of caring for someone while they are in the various stages of dementia is significant for those concerned. Help is available; you have to look to find it.

The conversation about making arrangements for a funeral plan with a loved one, who has dementia, is going to be an extremely difficult discussion. This is why the subject is either best broached at a very early stage of dementia, or arranged by the carer, if the patient can no longer understand about making decisions such as this and discussing the matter may cause severe stress.

As a charity, the Alzheimer’s Society depends upon donations. Where you have funds to spare or time available, they will be pleased to hear from you.


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